“Pain Lesson”
Whether you care to admit it or not you’ve hurt somebody in your lifetime. Regardless of whether it was done intentionally or not, you’ve done it. We all have and it doesn’t make us any less human, just makes us much more connected. Few realize just how much pain ties us together. We can all identify with loneliness, disappointment, frustration, and anger because we group those experiences together. But none of us will grow as we should until we learn the lessons in pain. We have to learn the good in pain and realize that it gives us a different perspective of time. It gives us the time to realize certain things about ourselves. It allows us the time to be smarter and the time to move forward. It provides us the time to seek wisdom and consider some much needed advice. But perhaps what pain gives us more than anything else is the strength to be a fighter. We can’t ever be so engulfed in our pain that we forget to be understanding, forgiving, and compassionate. You’re not the only one who’s ever been hurt; stop being fearless with life but being a coward with your heart. There are things you’ll tolerate and things you will not, but don’t blame somebody for crossing the line when you failed to set the boundaries. We base our assumptions for everybody else on our expectations of ourselves. So if you have trust issues make sure you’re the kind of individual who is trustworthy. If you don’t articulate how you feel you’re either too hurt to speak or too selfish to talk, and most times it’s not because you’re too hurt. Pain can either promote you or postpone you; I suggest you learn the good in it so it can open up the best in you.
